Aloha Friday: A Fun Night Out = Abandoning My Family?

Last Thursday night, I had the pleasure to go see Dr. Phil Plait (aka BadAstronomer) talk.  He spoke of such interesting subjects as the end of the world, Hollywood and eggs standing on end.  Amazingly, he was able to relate those things together into a coherent (and downright funny) speech including some clips from Armageddon and Deep Impact.  While there, I met TechSkeptik.  We had a great time talking about many things before and after Phil’s speech.  (No, not during.  That’d be rude.  Besides, Phil’s speech was too interesting to allow for talking.)

As I went to the speech, excited though I was, I also felt guilty.  I usually go home, make dinner and help get the boys ready for (and into) bed.  Instead of helping out my family, though, I was going to hear a speech for my own enjoyment.  I felt selfish, even though I knew that nights out like this for me are extremely rare.  I really don’t have any friends here that I can have a guys’ night out with.  Back in June, I posted about feeling isolated at times.  That feeling still pops up from time to time.  Yet here I was out on the closest thing to a "guys’ night out" that I’ve had in a long, long time and I was feeling like I was abandoning my family by doing so.

My question for you is this: How often do you have a guys’ or girls’ night out?  When you do, do you feel guilty for leaving your family?

(NOTE: To balance out my night out, B had a girls’ night out of her own the very next week.)


Thanks to Kailani at An Island Life for starting this fun for Friday. Please be sure to head over to her blog to say hello and sign the MckLinky there if you are participating.

Aloha Friday by Kailani at An Island Life

Aloha #14

NHL’s “Naked Gun” Moment and Turning Six

Last night as NHL was getting ready to go to sleep, I was setting some programs to DVR and making sure we had enough room. While checking to see if an episode of “The Spectacular Spiderman” was one I hadn’t seen, I accidentally hit play. NHL only saw the first couple of seconds, but that was enough for his “bedtime procratination sense” to tingle. He asked to see it and I told him that I’d show it to him another day. He asked what happened in the episode, so I explained the story briefly.

Me: “Spiderman found a black costume that made him stronger, but it also made him mean to people. He didn’t like being mean, so he took off the costume. This episode tells how he took it off.”

NHL: “Who’s Howie?”

As this point, I couldn’t contain myself. I burst out laughing and had to leave the room. I told B who also burst out laughing. As I caught my breath, I told a confused NHL that he just said something very funny even though he didn’t know it. (I didn’t want him thinking I was laughing at him.) It was all-too-much like something from the Naked Gun movies. Yes, I am serious and don’t call my Shirley.

All this is just a roundabout way of saying Happy Birthday to my now-six-year old NHL. Last year, at this point, he couldn’t read at all. Now he’s reading whole books to himself (and us). Last year, he couldn’t ride on a bike two feet without help. This year, he can ride almost all the way around the block without needing help. (Only some uneven sidewalks stand in his way.) Last year, he didn’t know any math at all. Now he’s adding and subtracting like a pro. He keeps learning so much that it is sometimes hard to keep track of it all. He’ll display some piece of knowledge and I’ll have to stop and ask “NHL, when did you learn *THAT*?” This can be good, like with reading various complicated words, or bad, like playing Mario Kart Wii with me and telling me that he’s going to “kick my ass.” (Yes, I told him never to say that again.)

While tucking him into bed last night, NHL told me that he’s going to miss being five. He was afraid that he wouldn’t be able to do things that he liked doing because he’ll be six. I told him that he’s had a lot of fun being five, but that every year he’ll be able to do more, not less. He’ll still be able to do the things he loved doing when he was five, but he’ll be able to find new things that he loves doing that he wasn’t able to do before.

I watch NHL grow with mixed emotions. Part of me finds it amazing to watch him grow into such an intelligent young man, but part of me wants to keep him a baby forever. As he gets older, I’ll miss the hugs and father-son cuddle moments that were so much a part of his younger years. But then again, I guess I’ll take my own advice and look forward to finding all of the new things that we can do together that we weren’t able to do before.

Happy birthday, NHL, from your very proud dad!

(For B’s Happy birthday message to NHL, hop on over to TheAngelForever.com.)

Happy Anniversary To My Wonderful Wife

[thumb id=1137]Eight years ago today, I got married to the most wonderful woman in the world. From the first moment that I met her in a Yahoo chat room, I knew that there was something special about her. I couldn’t put my finger on it at first, but as I got to know her online, I knew for sure that I wanted to spend more time with her. (And we did, often talking online or on the phone late into the night.) The first day that we met in person was wonderful. Unlike with other women I had crushes on before, I wasn’t nervous around B. It was the strangest feeling. I was completely at ease. Everything I said or did felt completely natural.

[thumb id=1122]As we dated, I quickly realized that I was falling head over heels in love with this wonderful woman. Every time I thought that I was the most in love that I could possibly be, B would say or do something (or simply look stunning like she usually does) and I’d find new levels of love to explore. I soon knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with B. I proposed to her one hot July evening after going for a walk around the block with her and we were married the following June.

[thumb id=1134]Since then we’ve been through highs (the births of NHL & JSL), lows (NHL & JSL’s seizures and hospital trips), gone on wonderful vacations (Vegas, Disney World) and had some very stressful situations (first home purchase). Through it all, there has been no one that I’d rather have by my side than B. She is the most wonderful, amazing, and sexy (yes you are, B!) woman that a guy could ask for. She’s also an incredible mother I love her with all of my heart and still, to this day, am constantly finding new levels of love with her.

Our Week In Disney World – Part VI – Terror, Beast, Mermaids and Mom

When we last left our intrepid Disney World vacationers, they were headed for the Tower of Terror.  As you may or may not know, the Tower of Terror is basically a thirteen story elevator shaft that you get dropped down – repeatedly.  Now, I have a fear of falling.  Not heights, just falling.  I’m fine behind the window of a 20th story building, but put me on the edge of a 2nd story balcony and I get nervous.  Naturally, then, a ride whose sole purpose is to make you fall multiple stories over and over wouldn’t appeal to me.  Indeed, when we went to Disney World in 2001 for our honeymoon, I refused to ride on it with B.  Why did I go on it this time, then?  Simple, because NHL had declared that he was going on it and I couldn’t let my 5 year old show me up.  Macho pride prevailed over plummeting phobia.

Nevertheless, I began to get nervous as we wound our way through the corridors, past the "story room" (where the back-story to the Tower of Terror is revealed) to our elevator.  I was quite happy to see the seats, actually.  For some reason, I thought that we would be standing when we dropped.  In hindsight, it was a stupid thing to think.  Imagine the liability of dropping an elevator full of standing (read: not buckled in) people even 2 stories.  Disney would be paying out millions in injured back, broken bone, and whiplash claims.  So we sat in our seats and I braced myself.  At first, we went up slowly and were "treated" to some more setup story.  There were ghosts, thousands of stars, and lots of other creepiness which served as a distraction to the fact that you were climbing ridiculously high up.  Finally, we were shown that we were, indeed, high in the air.  Then, we weren’t.  We plummeted down and I tried (unsuccessfully, I think) not to scream.  Then we shot back up again.  And I mean shot.  This was no mere elevator rising, but more along the lines of "falling up."  Then we fell back down again.  Then back up again.  Then back down and up.  Then, finally, back down.

Eventually, our elevator car came to rest and the doors opened to let us out.  The only reason my legs consented to carry me out was that, had they refused, I’d likely be forced to go up and down a few more times.  As I struggled to walk normally, I asked NHL if he thought it was scary.  He didn’t think so.  He didn’t want to go back on, but he wasn’t scared.  That tears it.  My son is braver than me when it comes to rides.  (This much I’ve known for quite some time.)

After we got off the ride, we met with B, B’s mother, and a now-awake JSL in front of the Beauty and the Beast stage show.  We quickly took our seats and while I fed JSL an apple (he missed lunch while sleeping, remember), the show began with a loud *BONG*.  A *VERY* loud *BONG*.  Everyone jumped and JSL got quite afraid.  They soon stopped the show, announced some technical difficulties and had us wait while they fixed them.  A few minutes later, we were watching a "tale as old as time, song as old as rhyme."  The show itself was quite nice, touching on all of the major points of the movie while cutting it down to stage show length.  Some things were cut, of course, such as Belle’s father.  She was just said to have wound up at the castle due to "an amazing series of events."  The only remnent of Belle’s father in the stage show is a line from the movie where the Beasts’ servents say that Belle has lost her father and freedom in the same day.

After the stage show, B and her father went on the Rockin’ Roller Coaster again.  We stayed to see the photo taken during the ride, got our photo taken in front of the guitar, and then headed right for The Little Mermaid show.  This show was indoors (always nice to get out of the hot Florida sun) and the boys enjoyed the songs and story.  It was over pretty quickly and, after a little shopping, we headed for the 50’s Prime Time Cafe for dinner.

This restaurant was quite appropriate for Mother’s Day dinner as the whole setup is that you’re sitting down for dinner at "mom’s house" circa 1950.  The waiting area has a bunch of old black and white TVs for you to watch and old-style furniture.  Your server takes the role of "Mom", telling you to keep your elbows off the table, eat all of your vegetables, set the table (take the napkins and silverware from a central backet and place them out) and do your homework (decide what to order).  It was quite funny to watch one of the cast members (pretending to be a cousin, I think), doing the "airplane manuver" to get a woman at another table to eat her veggies.  (They don’t push it too far, of course.  Just enough to be funny.)

After our dinner with "Mom", we headed to Downtown Disney to do some shopping.  Here is where NHL finally got to see the long-promised World of Disney.  If you have never been there, the World of Disney is the world’s largest Disney store.  The shop is so large, that I’ve gotten lost in it.  You get turned around and can’t figure out which way you turn to get to Plush Animals from Mensware.  After the World of Disney, we stopped by Goofy’s Candy Shop, but didn’t buy anything there.  Finally, exhausted, we made our way back to the hotel for a good night’s sleep.

Our Week In Disney World – Part V – Muppets, Motorcars and More

Hey all.  Due to a hectic work schedule (both work at work and at home), I took a week off of blogging.  Now that I’ve cleared a few things off my plate, I’m ready to resume my tale of our Disney World trip.

When I last left, we had just enjoyed the Toy Story Mania ride.  After leaving that, we walked around for a bit and eventually wound up by the Muppet Vision 3D theater.  B and I had seen this show when we went to Disney World on our honeymoon.  We knew that the kids would love it too and they definitely did enjoy seeing the 3D exploits of Kermit, Fozzie, Gonzo, and the biggest Muppet star of all: Ms. Piggy!

After exiting the Muppet Vision 3D theater, we noticed that a few Disney cast members were setting up the Cars meet and greet area.  Here you could get your picture taken with Lightning McQueen and Mater.  There was a very short line, so we joined it and before we knew it, NHL was posing between the two stars of Cars.  Then the rest of us (B, JSL and I) joined in and got some photos of all of us.  While NHL was excited, JSL wasn’t too sure about the whole setup.  Mater was making far too much noise for JSL so we had to move him more to Lightning’s side.

After Cars, we headed back to Toy Story Mania for our Fast Pass ride.  This time, I took JSL with me and B took NHL.  Following the Toy Story Redux, we split up.  B’s parents went off to Fast Pass Aerosmith’s Rockin’ Roller Coaster and generally walk around.  We wandered around until we came to the Playhouse Disney – Live on Stage show.  The line for this was short and the show was about to start, so we got on line.  Once inside, we took our places on the floor and waited for the show to start.

The show started out with Mickey Mouse Clubhouse – a favorite in our house.  Mickey, Donald, Goofy and Daisy were planning Minnie’s surprise party.  They split up to do various tasks (write a song, bake a cake, put up a banner), but needed some help.  In true Mickey Mouse Clubhouse style, they called upon Toodles to assist them with some Mouse-ka-tools.  The Mouse-ka-tools took the forms of stories from the characters from Handy Manny, Little Einsteins, and My Friends Tigger and Pooh.  NHL and JSL watch all of these shows at home and they enjoyed seeing the characters come to life in front of their eyes.

After the Playhouse Disney show, we met back up with B’s parents.  While B and her father went on the Rockin’ Rollercoaster, I got Fast Pass tickets for the Tower of Terror.  Then, JSL, NHL, B’s mother and I went to find a place to eat lunch.  After a few less-than-perfect possibilities, we settled on the Backlot Express.  JSL fell asleep during the walk over there, so NHL, B, B’s parents and I ate lunch.  Although, it was hot out, I opted for a veggie ciabatta, cheesecake and lemonade.  The entire meal was tasty and we left ready to do more.

Unfortunately, on our way back towards the Tower of Terror, B noticed that her glasses were off.  A quick glance showed that a nose pad had fallen off.  We searched the immediate area, but it was quite obvious that we wouldn’t find it.  After all, it was a small, transparent nose pad and Disney’s Hollywood Studios was so big.  So, with B putting up with the annoyance of cockeyed vision, we continued on to Tower of Terror.

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