Christmas Traditions in a Jewish Household

Tonight, Christian families all over the world will celebrate Christmas. Of course, my family and I are Jewish so we don’t celebrate this holiday. We don’t put up a tree. We don’t roast chestnuts or sing carols. And we definitely don’t await the arrival of a jolly plump visitor via chimney. However, we do have some traditions that we follow during Christmas.

Our first tradition involves Christmas eve. Every store in town seems to be closed, so we seek out the ones that are open. Usually, this means a Chinese restaurant. Yes, that stereotype of Jews eating Chinese food on Christmas is true for us. Some might dream of Christmas ham. I dream of Christmas lo mein perhaps with some sushi. Ok, I know sushi is Japanese, but the local Chinese Buffet place has some good sushi too.

Our next tradition takes place the next morning. We watch (and/or DVR for later viewing) the Christmas parade. You don’t need to celebrate the holiday to appreciate the parade.

The next tradition is that I’ll go to work instead of having the day off. Why, you ask? Why not simply take the day off and enjoy it with my family? Well, no one else is in during Christmas. That means that I can get a lot of work done uninterrupted. Plus, my office’s cafeteria gives out free lunches and pies to people who work on Christmas day. Lastly, I can take the day off another day. Perhaps I will use that day off for an extended trip (like to see my parents) or perhaps I’ll simply spend it with my family when more places are open. Either way, working on Christmas is a win-win for me.

What are your unusual Christmas traditions?

Aloha Friday: Favorite Holiday Meals

The holiday season is a time to celebrate, get together with friends and family, and eat some wonderful comfort food.  Chanukah just isn’t Chanukah to me without eating latkes (even if they are store-bought frozen).  I’d like to get a jelly donut tradition included in there too.  😉

Different people have different traditions, so my Aloha Friday question is: What foods do you like eating during the holiday season?  What foods do you like making during the holiday season?


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Giftgiving, Guitar and Games, Oh My!

A few days ago, I decided to take a video of my boys opening their Chanukah presents.

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As you can see, NHL’s present was a Super Hero Squad game for the Wii. I won this from Mommies With Style and we decided to give it to NHL for Chanukah. (Thanks, MWS!) A little while after this video was filmed, NHL was playing the game on the Wii, and beating my super-hero (Falcon) up as he played as The Incredible Hulk.

JSL already had seen his present when we bought it. Ever since we had gone to the Wiggles concert, he’s wanted a guitar like Murray. Strange, since his favorite Wiggle seems to be Anthony and not Murray. Anyway, he was there when we bought it in Toys ‘R Us, but threw a tantrum when he didn’t get it right away. He kept screaming "Want my Hanukah! Want my Hanukah!" He didn’t realize that he needed to actually wait for Chanukah before getting his gift. Once the box was opened and the guitar handed to him, he started playing…. Maybe not playing his guitar like Murray, but he did have fun.

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Gotta love the excitement kids have opening gifts! Happy Chanukah, everyone!

Why I Love Chanukah

I posted a rant a few weeks ago about how the Christmas season tends to get on my nerves by permeating everything around me, with people acting like it’s odd that I don’t celebrate it. After a few days of Chanukah, though, I’ve mellowed out a bit. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I still hate that every place in America goes Christmas-crazy. I still can’t stand the plethora of Christmas songs played with nary a Chanukah song in sight. I still bristle when my kids are asked what they want from Santa. But, I’ve decided to try to focus on the positive. I’ve decided to focus on why I like celebrating Chanukah instead of Christmas.

  1. Chanukah celebrates freedom. Where Christmas celebrates the birth of a religion’s messiah figure (or was it the arrival of a magical fat man bearing toys?), Chanukah celebrates freedom. Back in the day, a Syrian king ruled over the land of Judea. Jews living in that land were told that they could no longer worship their own religion. They couldn’t read the Torah, observe Shabbat, or anything. They had to worship the Greek gods or else. Many went along with this, but not Judah Maccabee. He organized a group that revolted and fought for their freedom of religion. They won against overwhelming odds and drove the Syrians out of Judea. Chanukah commemorates that victory.
  2. Chanukah ties in nicely with American history. America was colonized by people fleeing religious persecution. It became a separate country when the people got sick of a king imposing his ways onto them. America has valued religious freedom when other countries would rather force everyone to worship the same god. These themes are echoed in the Chanukah story. Teaching them together reinforces the message that each one sends.
  3. Chanukah has a conservation message. After the Syrians were driven out, the Jews tried to rebuild but found their temple defiled. They only had enough oil to light their menorah for one night. (It was supposed to stay lit 24/7 those days.) It would take 8 days to make more. Miraculously, the oil lasted 8 days! Yes, the conservation angle is a modern twist, but it’s not that bad of a fit. If we could make our resources stretch 8 times as long, there would be a lot less pollution/etc in the world.
  4. Chanukah is inexpensive. Ok, there’s the whole 8 days of presents thing (which isn’t *really* part of Chanukah but has been ingrained long enough that it might as well be). Of course, those don’t have to be 8 huge presents. We tend to give one or two larger presents and then round it out with smaller ones (books, clothing, etc). Other than that, though, all you really need is a menorah (which you use year after year) and candles for each night. (44. Yes, I did the math.) Alternatively, you could use an oil menorah which is more authentic and possibly less expensive. (We tend to buy our candles on clearance after Chanukah and then put them away for next year.) We don’t need to buy a tree or lighting or ornaments or plastic Santas to sit on our lawn. Oh, and you should have some dreidels but you don’t need to make them out of clay. 😉
  5. Chanukah is easy. See the previous point about tree, lighting and ornaments. All we need to do is put the menorah out, light some candles, say some blessings and call it a night. The hardest thing about Chanukah might be frying up latkes, but you could always take the lazy way out (*cough*like I did*cough*) and buy frozen.
  6. Chanukah isn’t overcommercialized. This is the flip-side to the “Christmas is everywhere, what about Chanukah” thing. While at times Chanukah might seem to be ignored, it also isn’t overcommercialized. I’m not going to see countless “RANDOM CARTOON CHARACTER Saves Chanukah” specials. I’m not going to be pressured into buying tons of useless junk because it’s got a menorah or dreidel stamped on it. I’m not going to be marketed to like crazy with the insinuation that I either spend a ton of time and money or my Chanukah is somehow less meaningful. Again, there’s the whole 8 nights of gifts thing, but that’s all.

In addition to all of this, my quest to find good Chanukah music was aided by an unlikely source. Normally, I’d be opposed to pretty much everything Orrin Hatch stands for. His political views and mine almost never agree. However, he recently recorded a Chanukah song. And this isn’t just Orrin singing “I Have A Little Dreidel”, it’s a brand new song! You can read the story behind it and hear the song itself at The Atlantic. It’s found a place in my rotation along with the Barenaked Ladies Chanukah songs and Adam Sandler’s originals.

So all in all, I’m happy to celebrate Chanukah! Now, if you’ll excuse me, this dreidel won’t spin itself.

Aloha Friday: The Santa Line

As the holiday season draws near, certain challenges arise. As I ranted talked about before in Tis The Season For Bah Humbug, we don’t celebrate Christmas. Instead, we celebrate Chanukah. This means that we don’t need to put up a Christmas tree, stuff any stockings or tell our kids that Santa is going to come and visit. However, that last item does pose a tricky dilemma. Obviously, we don’t have any personal need for our children to think that Santa Claus is real. However, if we tell them that he isn’t (especially 6 year old NHL), then that story will be repeated to other kids. Kids whose parents have said that Santa would be stopping by soon.

We don’t wish any ill will towards other families’ beliefs and practices so this one has, for now, been relatively easy to circumvent. We haven’t told them about Santa’s reality one way or another. The boys understand that Santa relates to Christmas and we don’t celebrate Christmas. However, I wonder what will happen as they get older. Will they begin to ask for a better reason why Santa won’t visit us or whether we’re on the naughty list for not celebrating Christmas? Perhaps NHL will want to know how Santa gets to every house in the world in one night. Perhaps he will have other, not so easy to answer questions. (If there’s one thing I’ve learned is that kids have a tendancy to find and ask questions that are difficult to answer.)

The more I think about the questions they might ask, the more I wonder where the line is. At what point does our wishes not to burst any bubbles clash with our wishes to raise our children to believe certain things. To expand this past Santa Claus, what happens if NHL tells a classmate in Hebrew school that men evolved from primate ancestors when that child has been taught that mankind was created by God somewhere around 10,000 years ago. That could understandably cause a sticky situation. To go past my own children, what if an athiest couple’s child tells mine that God doesn’t exist?

My Aloha Friday question is: How do you reconcile teaching your child what you would want them to believe while not offending others’ beliefs?


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