Reversing The Stereotypes

In our household, we try hard not to fall into the standard stereotypes.  Though I go to the office and B stays home, I do the cooking when I get home.  I’m also generally in charge of the vacuum.  B, on the other hand, is more of a sports fan than I am.

This has rubbed off on our boys.  JSL, recently, wanted a baby doll.  We didn’t question a boy playing with a doll.  After all, NHL has one already.  However, much as we searched, we couldn’t find a boy baby for him.  Frustrated, we railed against the toy companies for thinking that only girls want to play with dolls and then only with girl ones.

Finally, JSL pointed out to us that it didn’t have to be a boy doll.  He could get a girl doll.  It was nice to see that he didn’t see anything wrong with a boy playing with a baby girl.  (In part, he sees it as a replacement for the baby sister that we’re not giving him.)

Of course, this doesn’t mean that JSL is immune from stereotyping.  During Yom Kippur, I was fasting and so didn’t feel up to making dinner.  B volunteered to make some food, but JSL protested.  He insisted that she couldn’t because she didn’t know how to cook.

Yes, because I’m usually the one who makes the food, JSL now thinks that B is incapable of cooking at all.  The stereotype was reversed: Dads cook and Moms don’t.  We informed him that this wasn’t the case and B made dinner.  Still, it was quite funny to us to see the stereotype turned on its head.

What stereotypes do you break in your household?

Aloha Friday: When You Can’t Share

zipper-mouthI have some really big news.  Huge.  This news is so big that it has rattled my very idea of who I am.  I want to shout this news from the rooftops, tweet up a storm, and dedicate a fifty part blog series about it.  There’s only one problem: We’re not ready to blog about it just yet.

You see, this news affects the kids as well and, until some things are settled, we’re not going to publicly discuss it just yet.  So, until then, I need to keep quiet.

My Aloha Friday question for today is: Do you manage well with big news that you can’t yet share?

P.S. If you haven’t already, try out my Twitter applications: FollowerHQ and Rout.

Disclaimer: The "zipped mouth" image above is a compilation of "Zipper" by Deluge and "Emoticons: Worried Face" by nicubunu.  Both are available through OpenClipArt.org.


Thanks to Kailani at An Island Life for starting this fun for Friday. Please be sure to head over to her blog to say hello and sign the linky there if you are participating.

Aloha Friday by Kailani at An Island Life

Aloha #158

Distractions

As I sit here trying to come up with a blog post, I find myself fending off distraction after distraction.  First, there was my Google Reader – flush with blog posts that I didn’t check over Rosh Hashana.  There were hundreds of blog posts, deals, comic strips, and more to check out.

After I put that aside, Twitter beckoned.  I suddenly felt the need to see what everyone else was doing.  Were people still talking about NickMoms and copyright?  Did someone post a funny link or an insightful article?  I was offline for two days for Rosh Hashana and then was very busy during the day catching up with work so I needed my social media fix.  (Hey, I’m not an addict.  I can quit any time I want… I just don’t want to.)

With my inner social media junkie satisfied, I got down to the serious business of a blog post.  That is, until I felt the lure of my smartphone.  Specifically, Where’s My Water – my new Smartphone gaming addiction.  How could I blog when Swampy just needed me to guide water into his tub.  Just one more level and I’ll write my post.  Ok, that was kind of easy so maybe that didn’t count.  One more level.  Ooh, I wonder what level comes next…. What?  Oh, right.  The blog post.

So here I am.  All my distractions have been shaken off and I can finally get down to the serious business of writing my blog po… Oooh. Doctor Who on Netflix!

What tends to distract you?

When Monday Comes Disguised As Sunday

sank-battleshipEveryone knows that Monday is the worst day of the week.  That is the day that everything seems to go wrong.  Sometimes, Monday decides to get sneaky and comes around on a Tuesday.  Yesterday, though, Monday got extra sneaky.  It came on a Sunday.

Actually, the trouble started Saturday night.  My laptop has been overheating recently.  In what I thought was a related problem, it will intermittently not charge when plugged in.  I figured this was from it being too hot.  However, Saturday night, my laptop was completely cool, and yet didn’t recognize that it was plugged in.  My birthday is coming up (Friday), but I hadn’t counted on my birthday present being a new laptop.

Sunday, I began the very important task of making sure that my laptop was completely backed up.  I didn’t want my battery to die out completely, not be able to be charged again, and have important data on the hard drive.  (Yes, I could take the hard drive out and connect it to another computer, but that’d be a pain.)

I got my laptop (and B’s laptop while I was at it) backed up to our external hard drive and took it upstairs to back that up to our second external hard drive.  (We have two so that if one dies, we don’t lose all of our data.  We usually keep one drive "offsite" also.)

I got upstairs and started copying files.  That’s when I realized that it was warm up there.  I went to check on the portable air conditioner and noticed it wasn’t running.  Instead, it was flashing "STOP."  I didn’t know where the manual was, so I tried searching for what "flashing stop" could mean.  Eventually, I found out that it meant that the bucket was full.  The strange thing is that our air conditioner was supposed to evaporate water out of the window and *NOT* fill its bucket.  My searches indicated that sometimes, during high humidity days, it might not be able to keep up and might use the bucket.  Perhaps it had been doing this all along and just filled up.

In any event, emptying the air conditioner wasn’t going to be easy.  The only way to do it is via a drain on the bottom of the unit’s back and there were no drains upstairs.  B finally came to help me.  We positioned an empty Rubbermaid container by the unit, I lifted it in the air, and B pulled the plug.  Then, I tried my best to get the water in the container while keeping the heavy unit in the air.

With the water finally drained, we closed the drain, I put the unit down, and we cleaned up everything.  Unfortunately, some water spilled on the carpet as well, so I tried my best to dry it off.

This would have been the end of the tale, but an hour later, the air conditioner stopped again.  Not wanting to lift the unit again, I came up with a better plan.  In the basement we have a wet-dry vac.  It has come in handy in quite a few situations, most recently when the washing machine overflowed our utility sink and spread water everywhere.

I pulled the wet-dry vacuum out of the basement, but noted that it felt heavy.  With a start, I remembered that sink overflow a few weeks back.  In the craziness, I had forgotten to clean it out!  The water was sitting in the wet-dry vacuum that whole time.  Disgusting!

I lugged the wet-dry vacuum upstairs, plugged it in, and positioned it by the air conditioner’s drainage plug.  I stuffed a wad of paper towels under the drain in case this didn’t work, turned on the vacuum and unplugged the drainage spout.  Water came pouring out… and shot straight into the wet-dry vacuum!  Success!  Eventually, the air conditioner was empty and I was able to replug the drainage spout and turn off the wet-dry vacuum.  The paper towels had gotten mildly wet, but the floor was still bone-dry.

I wasn’t finished, however.  I had to clean the wet-dry vacuum now.  I wasn’t going to leave this water to languish in there for a few more weeks.  I went outside with the wet-dry vacuum and a garbage bag.  I dumped what water I could and dumped the rest into the garbage bag.  Finally, I used the hose to wash down what remained.

Tired and feeling filthy, I came back in the house and declared the day Monday-Posing-As-Sunday.  So how does one end a day as crazy as that?  Why with Chinese food and cupcakes, of course!

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As I write this, the wet-dry vacuum is clean, the air conditioner is working, the tub from the first emptying needs more cleaning before it can be used, and my laptop is still acting up.  (Though, if I pull the charger cable tight just right, it works fine.)  So it looks like *most* of the crises are over, but I might still need a new laptop.  Any recommendations would be appreciated.  I just need to balance power with budget pricing, though.  My current laptop’s specifications: Dual Core Pentium 2Ghz CPUs with 3GB of RAM, a 250GB hard drive, and a 15.6" screen.

Have you ever had a Sunday that revealed itself as a Monday in disguise?

NOTE: The Battleship Tie Clip was purchased from TheLovelyTeaspoon on Etsy.

The No Blog Post Post

There will be no blog post today.

Ok, there’s this one.  So I guess there *is* a blog post today.  But this one doesn’t count.

There’s been a lot of stress in my life recently.  I’ve been feeling like I need to be running at top speed 100% of the time just to keep from losing ground.  Check that.  I run at top speed 100% of the time and *STILL* lose ground.  What doesn’t help is that, at times of extreme stress like this, my brain reacts by shutting down.  I’ll need some serious decompression.  I’m craving it right now.

So, as I write this the night before you are reading it, I’m not feeling motivated to write a proper blog post.  Rather than rooting through photos to pull together an image-laden blog post followed by a 1am bedtime, I’m going to let my mind vegetate a bit.  I’m going to load up Lego Batman on the Nintendo DS and break some blocks.  (Surprising how therapeutic smashing virtual scenery is.)  Then, I’ll try to get to bed early.

Hopefully, this combination will let me release some stress so my brain will unfreeze and I can blog properly again.

Update: As I tried to post this, I encountered server problems. Forget the DS, I’m going right to bed!

How do you react to too much stress?

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